Eating Disorders:
Parent SUPPORT

Step off the eggshells and onto solid ground.

Watching your loved one of any age struggle with an eating disorder is terrifying. You want to help—but how? That’s where I come in.

Two Ways To Get Support:

-Suppportive coaching for caregivers (ongoing)

-Consultation with an expert (informational meeting)

Coaching for Caregivers

of Loved Ones with Eating Disorders

Doctors are often undertrained in eating disorders, and these illnesses require specialized care. Yet with theright support, a caregiver is in a powerful position to help guide their loved one towards healing.

Let’s step off the eggshells and get to work.

What this looks like:

  • Private coaching sessions (weekly, 45–50 minutes)

  • Caregiver-focused support designed to complement—not replace—clinical treatment

  • Practical guidance tailored to your family’s specific situation

What parent support often leads to:

  • A clearer roadmap for supporting your child without enabling harmful behaviors

  • Practical, in-the-moment tools for difficult conversations

  • Greater confidence in your role as a caregiver—less second-guessing, more clarity

  • A stronger ability to respond calmly and consistently when emotions run high

  • Clearer boundaries that reduce power struggles and support recovery

  • Tools to protect your loved one’s healing—and your own steadiness

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Consultation with an Expert

When someone you love has—or may have—an eating disorder, it can feel overwhelming and confusing. There’s a lot of conflicting information, and knowing what matters most right now isn’t always clear.

Consultations are designed to answer your questions.

What this looks like:

  • One-time meeting (45–50 minutes)

  • Duration-limited by design, focused on specific questions or concerns

  • Guidance informed by clinical expertise, research, and lived experience

What consultations often help with:

  • Getting clear, grounded answers to urgent questions

  • Making sense of treatment options, roles, and next steps

  • Feeling more oriented and less overwhelmed as a caregiver

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Testimonials

  • “Alli is amazing! She has been an incredible resource for me! Her personal lived experience, education, and knowledge make her an unstoppable force in the eating disorder world! I have learned so much from her! Her insight has definitely helped to promote healing in our family!”

    - Deb

  • “Working with Alli helped save my sanity and my relationship with my daughter, as we worked her way through her eating disorder and the myriad of challenges that brings. It’s near to impossible to face the chaos and work of having a child with an eating disorder without the intelligent support, up to date information, sense of humor, and intrinsic kindness that Alli offers. I encourage anyone who is seeking support to reach out to Alli and absorb all she has to offer.”

    - Elizabeth Mac Donald

  • “Alli Spotts-De Lazzer is an incredible asset to the eating disorder field. Her clinical expertise and passion for helping her patients and their families are a powerful combination and make her an effective provider. Beyond direct patient care, Alli is committed to moving the eating disorder field forward in its ability to better care for patients. Her presentations at conferences and involvement as a change agent in foundational eating disorder organizations demonstrate her strong commitment to patients and her fellow clinicians.”

    - JD Ouellette

  • “I have had the pleasure of knowing and working collaboratively with Alli Spotts-De Lazzer for the past few years…While symptom containment from an eating disorder is always an important goal, the true magic lies in the healing and restoration of family bonds. I trust Alli's intuition, experience, and deep knowledge she brings to each session. Her insights and compassionate yet direct approach make her an invaluable clinician. I am incredibly grateful to have Alli as a trusted colleague and go-to resource for family therapy and parent coaching. I wholeheartedly recommend her to anyone seeking an experienced eating disorder provider to support the entire family in recovery and healing.”

    - Theresa Chesnut, LCSW, CEDS-C

Q&As

  • Stop blaming yourself. You didn’t cause this—science backs that—and it’s not your fault you didn’t see it earlier. We live in diet culture, which often camouflages eating disorders. If you’re here now, you’re paying attention. You’re on it.

  • Yes. I’ve facilitated a free eating-disorder caregiver support group for many years.

    For current details, please visit the “Resources” page. Many of my free resources can be found there.

  • The Certified Eating Disorders Specialist (CEDS) designation is the only nationally recognized certification indicating competence in treating eating disorders. The “-C” means that I’m approved to oversee the professional development of CEDS applicants.

  • Let’s chat about whether coaching or therapy will be a better fit from the start—they’re different, and that distinction matters.

    Coaching focuses on enhancement—building skills, tools, and strategies to support growth and forward movement.

    Therapy focuses on healing and clinical care, including assessment, diagnosis, and treatment. Therapy is regulated healthcare, which means therapists must meet state-mandated education and supervised experience requirements, obtain licensure, and maintain that license in good standing.

  • Absolutely! If you’re near Studio City, CA, come on in!

  • My coaching services are for caregivers only. If you are looking for support for your own eating disorder, please visit the Therapy page for more information on how we might be able to work together.

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